Let her be as the loving hind
and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou
ravished always with her love. (Proverbs 5:19)
Proverbs five gives us so much
wisdom about how to build a strong marriage and all those interested in being
married and loving it should give heed to this wisdom. God in His wisdom and
grace and live for us designed our bodies to be sexual and to derive pleasure
and fulfillment in a properly run sex life.
God declares let her breasts
satisfy you at ALL times and be ravished by her love. Wow that's awesome and
exciting notice he says let her breasts must satisfy you… in other words, the
satisfaction factor is a choice not a product of the breasts themselves. So
whether your wife has bee stings or twin towers you have to enjoy them. My wife
has the most amazing breasts in the world, how do I know that well I have never
tried any other breasts so my decision is not from experience but by
choice I choose to be ravished by her breasts alone and not any other. You
may be asking why not try others in order to test and see well if you keep
reading chapter five of Proverbs you will notice the warning that the lips of a
strange woman drip like the honeycomb and her mouth is sweeter than oil. Isn’t
this so true that the immoral woman has the ability to use her tongue to get
her way? Men are so vulnerable to the tongue of a jezebel but it's unfortunate
how many are still foolish enough to give attention to her words.
Look at the consequence her
end is bitter as wormwood (This was a drug that gave its victim a high but the
moment the high lifted one was left in bitterness) one is struck by a deadly
suffering (the two-edged sword) and the result is death and hell. I am by no
means trying to scare anyone out of sin but merely trying to remonstrate with
someone till they come to reason and good conduct. Loving and honoring your
wife and enjoying her breasts has no consequences that is why God asks a
question why my son would you embrace the bosom of a stranger why are you
ravished by a strange woman? God knows that this route will cost you and yet we
choose to ignore Him. Will a man take fire to his bosom and not be burned? We
know the answer to that and yet men still play with fire and think they will never
be burned.
Here is the good news you can
develop intrigue and excitement about your wife’s body. You can build the
relationship and intimacy until she is the only one who satisfies you. You
have to make the quality decision to remain focused on loving your wife and her
alone that way other doors will close. I discovered recently that there is a
part of the human brain that controls the pleasure and pain aspects of our
lives and depending on what we are going through there are records being filed
in a filing cabinet in our systems that will say that thing we did was
pleasurable so let us do it again. Now if the thing was destructive like adultery
then we become addicted to and creative about making this experience happen
more frequently and this is why men pursue a harlot more than they pursue their
wives because their system is recognizing their wife as a source of pain and
the other woman as a source of pleasure. And in response to this situation, the
wife causes more pain in an attempt to get her husband back and the harlot
causes more pleasure and we know what the result is in most cases. The man
leaves his wife in pursuit of pleasure with the harlot not knowing that the moment she becomes a wife his system will default back to acting the same way as
before because the signal says a wife causes pain and so the cycle continues.
Yet on the other hand if the married couple were to understand this they would
work at creating pleasurable experiences for each other and so build a stronger
marriage. Tell yourself “her breasts are amazing, her body is glorious and
desirable, her bums are ever so attractive and when you do this “Amygdala,” says
this is enjoyable I love it and sends signals to the frontal lobe that directs
our social conduct and relationship management (among many other things) then
your creativity in making the relationship pleasurable will increase.
Wow, this is exciting because
you can literally coach yourself to enjoying your marriage and to creating an
environment that is happy and enjoyable. The Bible teaches that your life can
be transformed by the renewing of your mind therapists call this Cognitive
Behavioral Therapy is merging behavioral and cognitive therapies. This
simply put means changing the way you behave by changing the way you think and
process information. The highest and most effective way of doing this is seen
when Paul said put on the mind of Christ or let this mind be in you. In other
words, the solution to wrong lifestyles is replacing wrong thinking with right
thinking, when I begin to think like Christ (His Word) I will begin to act like
him. So to fill one's mind with the Word of God is to change one's behavior.
Look at it this way if Christ
was a husband how would He treat his wife? Well that’s easy to answer because
Christ is a husband to the church and the message Bible says he loved the
church with a love marked by giving and not getting. He was willing to die for
his wife and that is how we ought to conduct ourselves as husbands. Jesus is
mindful of us and will go out of His way to serve us and bless us.
I encourage you as a husband to find pleasure in your marriage, love and honor your wife, serve her and be a
covering and a blessing to her and Christ will honor you with favor and success
in all your plans. To be “Married and Loving it” you have to make a decision
not to be ravished by a stranger and not to embrace a stranger regardless of
how sweet her words seem. Be intoxicated by the love or your wife let her
occupy space in your mind in the pleasure department and the harlot must occupy
the pain department and that way you will walk right and enjoy the trip. When you
get home today tell your wife your breasts are amazing and you will see her
face light up as she desires to give you pleasure. Hopefully, she has not read
this blog so she will love what she is hearing, but even if she knows where you
got the trick from she will still love hearing you say it. Other related
articles are Make
him come home and Lessons
from the harlot (This was by far one of my most controversial article yet
loaded with truths)
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