Sex everywhere except in marriage

Sex everywhere… except in marriage

Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery.

As a Pastor I have always wondered why there are young people that just cannot seem to stay out of bed and we pray and fast and cry and sing songs about “no ringy… no dingy” hope the young people will live holy meanwhile on the other side the married couples seem to be bored with each other. We have to pray and fast to get them into bed… with each other.

What is the source of the dysfunction? Watch television there is sex everywhere, every advert has sexual innuendo. Adverts for a car appear with a naked woman whose supposed to be “sexy” posters, billboards internet etc. we see sex everywhere. It seems the enemy understands something that the church needs to learn. Sex is a normal part of a healthy society and sex is integral to this facet of our lives. So he attacks where it hurts the most. We remain ignorant about money and sex and yet we all need both, in fact we are working hard to get these things whether secretly or publicly.

I am not just trying to be hard on the church I love the church and I desire to see happier marriages that are full of love intimacy and lovemaking. But as long as we do not open up to these facts then we will continue to see the challenge of misplaced values and pleasures. Sex is great no its awesome no its outrageously, awesome, splendid glorious. Above all it is a means of worshipping God that gives glory to Him. Satan knows if I attack and pervert this thing that was God made then I can frustrate the plan of God. Satan is out to mess up your life and marriage.

Ok ok here is the good news. Lets go back to the scripture at the beginning, give honor to marriage and treat it with the due reverence. If we are to fully enjoy life as God intended for us to we must revisit the value systems that he placed on marriage. Why did God bring people together in marriage and how should we treat our marriages. The attack has been to discredit marriage and cause us to treat it as unimportant and then the enemy comes in to cause frustration and pain until people say “why get married anyway” One translation says God draws a firm line against adultery. If I can get them to live in sin they will feel guilty and they will not be in fellowship with God then I win.

It is possible to be married and love it, it is possible to be joyful in your marriage, and heres how. Make love more often, set targets to increase the amount of lovemaking in your relationship. Go wild go crazy have fun go on a lovemaking adventure, discover the fun that is is your sexuality.

I can here a lady saying “ahhh Pastor do you know my husband, he does not love me, all he wants is sex” well if you give him he will discover that there is more to this person than a sexual organ (Unless you married a monster then that’s a different story) After all the thing that caused him to notice you was the sexuality and you should know the power of it as a God-given tool to make the playing field equal.

Back to my point lets increase the amount of lovemaking in our marriages and we will see the bond getting stronger. Its amazing that God designed it in a way that makes a sexy marriage will have a stronger desire for more sex and more of each other and there are countless other benefits of making love more often. I did some articles that perhaps you need to look at Make love a habit you will learn why satan does not want you to be making more love with your spouse and makes it easy to do it with others. There are awesome benefits to regular lovemaking that will solve your challenges forever.

I have noticed that couples that make more love make more money, more ideas, are happier, more joyful, their home is homely but the opposite is also true. So couples here is the challenge make a plan to double your lovemaking in the next 30 days and stop and do a review of your marriage, communication, finances and the general bond between the two of you. Money back guarantee… Please note I am using the Word lovemaking as apposed to the sex that fills the world. Only married people can make love, others fornicate. Fornication brings judgment, holiness brings blessing and marriage is holy and pleasing to God

Praying Together as a Couple

Couples Praying Together

Here is an article that will be helpful to you. I responded to a question that was asked. Should we pray together as a couple and if so what are the benefits of doing so? This is indeed an important topic and if you master this area you will see amazing things happen in your life and marriage. The Bible tells us in Matthew 18:18-19 that unity between two people agreeing on earth on a matter causes God in heaven to move on their behalf. The amplified version says you must harmonize and make symphony together. Wow those are string terms. To make symphony together means that there is no discord and everyone is in beat.

You cannot afford to be out of tune as the enemy uses that to cause problems. This works for both couples and churches. The level of unity and harmony determines the level of the miraculous that is in manifestation. I remember from my guitar music lessons that when tuning your guitar you could use harmonics to tune it. That means when you strike the key of “e” every other string that is tuned to “e” will respond by vibrating. Wow that means when husband and wife are in harmony when one says something the other responds at the same key there is no discord. The big question is this possible if yes how can we achieve it? Read the article below

Hi woman of God thank you for the kind comment about the blogs am so happy they are ministering to you. It is our desire to be a blessing to you.

I love you question so much please allow me to make it a blog. It is such an important question and I believe it will help many people.

To answer you briefly these are some benefits couples praying together.

1. Marriage is first of all spiritual so when you pray together you are connecting with God and each other spirit to spirit. The result is you will have a strong bond that cannot be easily broken. Just like a church that pray together have a stronger bond than one that does not, and so it is with couples. We never have to counsel couples that pray together often, their marriages are amazingly strong.

2. Praying together helps you focus on the needs of the family and bring them before God in faith. Where two or three agree (Matthew 18:18) there is no higher level of agreement than that of husband and wife. The devil will do all he can to stop you from praying together because he knows the power that flows out of unity.

3. One will set a thousand to flight two will send ten thousand. There is a symbiotic reaction that multiplies your effectiveness when you pray together. Multiply your effectiveness and see miracles happen faster and more frequently

4. In prayer you express the deepest and most sincere desire in your hearts therefore as you express yourself in prayer you and your spouse are able to connect with each others intimate needs and be more responsive to each other. This tenderness to each other fosters an environment rich with faith and the supernatural. Guess what it also reduces the friction of should we buy the lounge suite first or the Meg wheels for the car

4. Prayer together reduces stress and strain in the relationship as you faith factor increases, focused faith allows you to get better results and less pressure on each other. You realize that you don’t wrestle against flesh and blood so you spouse is not the enemy.

5. Prayer together brings the power of God in greater manifestation and hence there is more joy and peace and health well not to mention sex. It’s amazing how the sexual response cycle works faster in a woman who is happy than an anxious one.

6. Praying together creates an environment rich with love and intimacy because of all that's mentioned above and it results in a great sex life. You release of oxytocin causes you to bond even more and that bond causes more phone calls and messages to each other

7. Finally it fills your home with the presence of God and angelic ministry. The bible says where there is strife there dwells every evil work (demons and demonic activity [James 3:14-18]) but where there is unity God commands the blessing.

So I am sure that this is a motivation for you to look at this matter very seriously. In fact I am immediately reviewing my prayer strategy with my wife I need more power and more sex.

God bless you and your marriage

30 seconds in the elevator

30 Seconds in the elevator

Do you remember the fresh days of your relationship when it was difficult to keep your hands of each other? Oh you never had those, whops sorry. I remember the days and I smile at the thoughts. 30 seconds in an elevator and amazing things would happen and I would pray that it would get stuck between floors. Isn’t amazing that we loose the fun side of our marriages and now you can drive all the way to work and back and not chat or accidentally miss the gear stick while driving?

Pastor how can you say such things? Well inside most people we chat with about marriage there is a desire for more fun and enjoyment and adventure. Many marriages become frustrated because of routine and ritual. I encourage you to become adventurous again, this will certain make your marriage something to smile about. The next time you are alone in an elevator accidentally press the top floor and pray that no one stops you half way and as soon as the doors close give her or him the biggest wettest kiss that would make Hollywood envious. Well Pastor what is there are cameras? Well what about them there were cameras at your wedding, what if someone stops us well just smile and wave and say hope you are not going all the way to the top.

The bottom line is your marriage need to be fresh and exciting so fuel it with moments that keep the excitement high. I know that some of you are introverts and you are on the serious side of life, well I’m glad I am not married to you I hope your spouse does not feel the same way. Do whatever you think is spicy for your marriage like sending your spouse the families balance sheet.

Have you ever gotten home and there is a message by the door that causes you to want to go and buy some breath mints because you know what’s on the other side. Well we have had to stop this because we have lived with so many people we did not want to shock the kids. But let your bedroom be a place of adventure and fun. The bible says the bed undefiled is honorable to God. He is pleased when we have fun in our relationship and I encourage you to plan some special moments together. You may not notice the lack thereof in the short term but in the long run you will realize that something is missing.

What thirty-second thing can you do today that will cause your spouse to smile and remember the butterflies they felt when you were walking down the aisle and everybody knew what you will be doing tonight.

The other day our son whose four was walking out our room and a second later he opened the door again and looked at us and pointed a finger and said “guys don’t kiss ok…” then he walked out, sure enough he knew what was going to happen so he opened the door again and said “ughhh sis” and went away smiling. Is your marriage ministering to someone is it causing you to smile? Are you enduring hardness like a good soldier? Well it can change

Marriage is a gift from God enjoy it

Hey stay married and loving it

The "F" word in the bedroom

The “F” word in the bedroom

We are living in times where our marriages are under severe attack from everywhere and we need to be intentional about building what I call God-centered marriages. These are marriages where God is the center. This is not a “Christian” marriage but one where the married Christians deliberately decide that we will center our decisions, action, thoughts and lifestyle in and around what God has said in His Word. Husbands love you wife as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it, period. Wives submit to your own husband as the church to the church, very clear.

But how many marriages are like that? It is not easy to put your body under and deal with the feelings and emotions that are so well fed by the media to do exactly the opposite. The enemy coined the “f” word to attack marriage and make common what God made to be sacred. Young people are caught up with this and adults don’t know how to handle it. I am in no way trying to be crude I am merely tackling matters that are a source of great pain in many people lives when it should be a source of great joy.

Anyway before you close this blog and write me off let me cut to the chase. I want to introduce you to the “F” words that should be a permanent part of your married life. These words will bless you and help you get to a place where you are “Married and Loving it” here we go… If you have these words in your bedroom wow you will be super glued to each other.

Sexy Scriptures for today. 

Gen 26:8 MSG One day, after they had been there quite a long time, Abimelech, king of the Philistines, looked out his window and saw Isaac fondling his wife Rebekah.

1Co 6:16 There’s more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, "The two become one."

Heb 13:4 MSG Honor marriage, and guard the sacredness of sexual intimacy between wife and husband. God draws a firm line against casual and illicit sex.

Frequent

Lovemaking should be frequent you should practice often how to please your spouse and keep their mind full of you. Infrequent sex leads to fatigue, failure, frustration, foolishness, frigidity, force, fear and other words that I do not want to take up space with.

On the other hand frequent sex cause you to desire each other more as doctors say we produce a hormone oxytocin during foreplay and love making and the only real known purpose for this hormone if bonding the couple producing it, wow God is funny isn’t He. The more you do it the more you want to do it with the same person, the hormone creates a desire and a longing for the person you are married to. Practice makes permanent. You see the more you do it the more you have an opportunity to learn make mistakes laugh about them and move on. There are many amazing benefits to frequent lovemaking let me mention one and move on “Financial favor”. I can see that look on your face how does frequent love making result in financial favor? Try it out decide to make love with to your spouse daily for a month or two and you will see the change. We tried it with couples at church amazing results with those that did “The assignment”

(Watch out for our “Married and loving it” seminar called “Sex and Money”)

Fun

Not only should lovemaking be frequent it should be fun. It should be something that makes you smile at you desk when you think about it at work. “I’m smiling right now as I think about it” back to business after deciding to do it often ask the question “what can we do to make it more fun? Play games like Adam and Eve (before the fall) that means get rid of the kids the helper lock yourselves in the house watch Nat Geo wild without your cloths name the animal then go have some fruit. (Remember cloths came as a result of the fall not children)

Here are some words to think about. Frolic around the house with in your favorite sexy cloths, foreplay for the next session begins immediately after you finish the current session, food fellowship and friendship is followed through by some find me behind the couch fun, favor with each other will result in favor with God. I am sure, as a wife you want God to answer your husbands prayers, so stay connected.

Be adventurous the discovery channel was meant to be for couples just keep your discoveries secret.

Fulfilling

When you are friends who fellowship frequently in a fun environment you will find the final result of the relationship is fulfillment. Couples that do these things have a glow on their face and a sparkle in their eyes. A fulfilled marriage results in a fulfilled life. Be determined to live a fulfilled life and you will see how long you live. To be fulfilled like this decide to be forgiving (that means give first) forbearing (bear first) forplanning (plan first) forplaying (play first) for-orgasmic (that means at least four orgasms a day no it means you are in favor of)

Hey have fun see you at a "Married and loving it" seminar

Your turn to add to this blog other “F” words that you think will help couples to be “Married and love it”