I would still choose you!!!

A Love POEM

Here is a little poem I wrote for my honey, my chocolate my sweetheart my world
We have been married for nine years and we have known each other for ten years. Its been heaven on earth with some attacks that we have overcome. Deuteronomy 11 vs. 21. I remember sitting with my wife and discussing about some things that we were not happy about and we listed them down and looked Exodus when Go says these Egyptians that you see now you will see no more. We declared that day that these things are over. I am glad we did that when some of those Egyptians try and raise their ugly heads I remind them. But this is a poem to celebrate my sweet heart who has been a great blessing to be over the last nine years of our life.

I would still choose you!!!
I took time to think, “I would still choose you!”
As I sat in bed in the early hours of the morning
My mind became a blank canvas on which to paint the picture of our love story
For a picture can speak a thousand words
The joys we've had the pain we've shared
Moments of laughter moments of pain
The sudden embrace in the closet
The gentle shoulder massage in the office while working on a stressful assignment
Words shared with depth and warmth
Looking into you eyes and hearing the words ''I love you''
Twas like a frozen frame on a camera
A fleeting kiss on a warm summer night
I thought of our love, our marriage, our past our future our joy our hopes and I realized if I had to do it again I would still choose you

The day our hearts looked into each other’s eye I knew then that this was it.
The day have been busy the nights short
When evening comes our energies spent
I sit there and wonder where the day went
The comfort of your undying love always in my mind
 I smile as I lie next to you and think tomorrow is coming
Another day
Another opportunity
To love you again and if I had to do it again I would still chose you
The only thing to change is I would love you as if there were no tomorrow give you my heart as though there was never any sorrow
Live every moment in the now
Ever present ever there and still glad I chose you

Discover your spouse Part 2

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Discovering your spouse Part 2

Hi there welcome back to “Married and Loving it” in our last blog which by the way has had the greatest hits in the shortest time on all the marriage blog we spoke about discovering your spouse as a key to enjoying your marriage. It is so true that when you discover the anointing they carry as a husband or wife you will enjoy them more, there will be less fights and difference. An example most people have no problem receiving counsel and advise and even a rebuke and correction from their pastor because they believe that this a man of God representing God in their life. Now let me say something that might be deemed dangerous. Did you know your spouse is the most important person to you in this world, not your pastor? If that is true do you think God failed to put something of value in them beyond being a source of sexual satisfaction?

They carry an anointing that will make your every dream come true, they are designed by God to complement, complete, fulfill and satisfy every need that is humanly possible in your life (There is a God factor that no human being can fill) So when you discover that anointing like you discover the anointing on your pastor you are ready to make. The challenge you will face is that of familiarity which by the way breeds contempt. Have you ever seen couples trying to navigate themselves to a holiday resort and they get lost (by the way Garmen {GPS} have solved this problem) and you now have two drivers? Or have you seen a husband trying to teach his wife to drive? Wow that is always a challenge. Because you are familiar with each other its difficult to take instructions from each other. Even if the husband is a better driver than the instructor the wife wants to be an instructor of the instructor. Anyway back to the scripture. 

Ecclesiastes 9 vs. 9 Enjoy life with the wife whom you love, all the days of your vain life that he has given you under the sun, because that is your portion in life and in your toil at which you toil under the sun. Take note that God say’s “enjoy life” that means its possible to enjoy it; He goes on to say “with the wife you love” wow so you can be married and love it.

If God says live happily with your WIFE it is possible. If you marriage is not good then you need to take stock of your life and see what you are not doing right. Your wife not just a woman if you treat her that way you will be violating some fundamental laws. There are principles that govern marriage. Happy marriages come by what you know and do.
1 Peter 3 vs. 7

If you are to have a great marriage there are certain things that you need to know about your spouse. Study your wife and deal with her in knowledge. Know stuff about her that is hidden under the make up.

God made us different so that we can need each other and fulfill each other. Imagine a wall plug and a socket fighting about their difference in shape; one has to fit in the other. The same is true in marriage one has to fit in the other “pun intended” imagine if anatomically you were the same, there would be no drive or desire to be together unless you are gay. Now if this is true from a physical perspective perhaps this truth applies to the emotional and psychological factor of the relationship. Your difference is a point of celebration and not contention. Enjoy the differences the same way you look at you wife’s body and are intrigued at Gods amazing creativity. Lol

Women were created to be that way so that marriage can work. They complete life for us remember she was taken out of man therefore when you find her you are complete, therefore you should celebrate her otherwise your life would be a grayscale life no color no flavor, no variety. She brings the shape, the softness the fresh fragrance the warmth. Now if you have not discovered this you would interpret it to be competition and lack of submission, you would think she is too emotional and too talkative and that she takes too long in the shopping mall. But guess what that’s how she is supposed to be.

Here is what the Bible says you must do as a husband if you are to enjoy your marriage. Give her honor as unto a weaker vessel, not because she is weaker but the way you handle some of value. The next time she is taking a shower check on her bum you will see that it is written “Fragile, handle with care, This way up and do not put anything on top. Contents may break”

Realize that she is Gods daughter and you do not want to have an angry father in law. Honor her in speech and in conduct, what you say and do to here privately and publicly should honor her and place her high in your life. Some men think by pulling down their wife they look good. I have no respect for men that dishonor their wives in any way. Failure to comply will lead to unanswered prayer; the success of your prayer life is dependent on your attitude towards your wife

Failure to recognize your wife as a team player you limit what you will achieve. From Gods perspective you and your wife are equal you are both equal heirs of the kingdom. The blessedness of life is seen in your wife and in the things that God has deposited in her that you need to discover. I read a book called acres of diamonds and it teaches of a man who sold his farm to pursue a land that had diamonds, it was discovered after his death as a discouraged recluse that the farm he had was filled with diamonds. The moral of the story is we often want to go far to get something that will make us successful when we have a diamond mine in our bedroom. You just have to mine and discover the diamonds. I heard a story that happened in a neighboring country where they found an awesome reserve of diamonds in their back yards. Suddenly the community saw the army coming and blocking of their homes and the stones they were using to shot birds with were priceless diamonds.

How many of us have great treasures hidden in our spouses that we have never taken time to explore and exploit in a positive way. There are some men that I know would be better of had they taken time to listen to their wives. Remember she is a helper she is gifted with all the necessary tools to help you achieve the God-given vision.

In the third and final part of “Discover your spouse I will list some of the Giftings that you need to look out for that will help you as a man. Do watch out for the third part. God bless you  

Married and loving it: Discovering your spouse Part 1

Married and loving it: Discovering your spouse Part 1: Married and loving it Discovering my spouse Part 1 Hi welcome to this article on ''Married and loving it'' I trust you are growing in yo...

Discovering your spouse Part 1

Married and loving it
 

Discovering my spouse Part 1

Hi welcome to this article on ''Married and loving it'' I trust you are growing in your marriage as you follow this blog. My wife and I are so excited to be able to share each article with you as we feel a part of your life. We desire to share our life and experiences with you so that we can be a blessing to you. But more than that we want to share the Word of God with you because that is the firm foundation for building great marriages. I shared in a past blog about how that God spoke to me from Proverbs 18 vs. 22 He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord. God clearly said to me it is the discovery of the anointing hidden in the beautiful body that is the wife. Therefore when you discover her you discover a part of your life that will complete you and cause you to walk in the fullness of your assignment. Unfortunately a lot of men never get to find a wife even after being married for many years.

A survey was done that proved that most men achieve significant success after the age of forty not because of the old adage that life begins at forty. Because a majority of men only discover the power of the woman at that time they often miss out on the benefits of being married. It is believed that our wives are supposed to bring inspiration and motivation that takes the man to levels of achievement that are beyond normal. But at the earlier stages of the man’s life he is not aware that God has given him a handbook of success. Taking your wife seriously will work for your good. Notice the verse says you obtain favor when you find a wife, if this referred to just the act of being married it would mean a lot of men would be walking in favor but it is the discovery of the hidden treasure of the wife anointing that takes your life to another level.

Now this is where it gets interesting, often when the husband discovers the wife she is able to also discover herself the man has the responsibility of making the woman what she is supposed to be. Read Ephesians 5 vs. 24-28 and you will see the picture of the church and Christ and the connection of that and marriage. Husbands do the washing and the cleansing the same way Christ works on the church. While meditating on this remember Abigail and her husband the fool. In 1st Samuel chapter 10 we read this amazing story of a beautiful woman who was of good understanding but she was married to a fool. This was probably according to Jewish culture a fixed marriage. But the fool never discovered the wife and he lost her and his life because of his foolishness. The story could have had a different ending had he been wise and conducted himself differently. Hid empire could have increased and his influence been established into David’s government.

Well in this series I wan to help you go on a journey that will help you discover each other as husband and wife so that you can walk together better and get amazing results in your life. With these principles you will enjoy your spouse and the marriage and you will see an accumulation of wealth and resources. God said you obtain favor when you find a wife. There must be something awesome hidden in there tha gets Gods attention and causes him to release favor in your life, what is it? Remember God’s words “It is not good for man to be alone (all one) God made a helper suitable for man and that opened the door for the favor to flow.

Compare Proverbs 18 vs. 22 with Proverbs 8 vs. 35, the result is the same but the first part is different. Or is it? Chapter 8 is talking about wisdom and understanding while chapter 18 is talking about a wife, could it be that there is a relationship between these two? To handle a wife the bible tells us to do it with understanding. I want to propose to you that God is telling you and me as husbands that as we develop some understanding in handling our spouses we will develop some skills in making life work. From observation I have seen that men that handle their wives well are more successful in life (please note that success is relative but I am talking about the godly picture of wholesome success in all areas of life) When a couple come to me struggling financially 99% of the time it can be traced back to some disharmony in the marriage.

Ecclesiastes 9 vs. 9 Enjoy life with the wife whom you love, all the days of your vain life that he has given you under the sun, because that is your portion in life and in your toil at which you toil under the sun. Take not that God say’s “enjoy life” that means its possible to enjoy it. He goes on to say “with the wife you love” wow so you can be married and love it. If God says live happily with your WIFE it is possible, if you marriage is not good then you need to take stock of your life and see what you are not doing right. Your wife not just a woman if you treat her that way you will be violating some fundamental laws. There are principles that govern marriage. 

Happy marriages come by what you know and do. What do you know and do for your spouse that qualifies you for a great life.
1 Peter 3 vs. 7. Deal with your wife with understanding and give her honor. Wow that's awesome there is no person I honor on earth like I do my wife. She shapes my world, gives it color and flavor. She sets the temperature in the home and makes life livable. Now if a wife is that important how is it that men do not give the necessary honor to their wives. Don't be a Nabal, he refused his wifes advise and messed up his life. The level of wealth you will enjoy is determined by your marriage. Reseach has shown that the most successful men and wealthiest men in the world are in their first mariiage and they have good marriages.

If you are to have a great marriage there are certain things that you need to know about your spouse. Study your wife and deal with her in knowledge. Know stuff about her that is hidden under the make up.

Well I have to stop here for today look out for part 2 as we continue our investigation.